Achieving Your Dream – Part Two

We’ve all seen them—the productivity memes. You know, the ones that say something like:

“You pick up a cup and attempt to go to the kitchen to do the dishes, but get distracted by a dirty table. You put the cup down to clean the table, then you find a bill that needs to be paid. On your way to the computer to pay the bill, you get distracted by dirty laundry on the floor. On your way to do the laundry, you get distracted by something else…and by the end of the day, you haven’t really accomplish anything at all.”

*Phew* Even reading that made me exhausted, but you get the general idea. There is a lot of stuff we want to do and have to do, but there is always something else that distracts us, and for some people, even more so. It’s not always easy to stay on task when so much is going on around us. Our dreams often take a backseat to life because them seem so impossible to accomplish.

Over a decade ago, I started playing an online game called Runescape. It’s this immense online multiplayer game and very addicting. You could interact with other players, chat with them, and train skills with them. Each skill could go up to Level 99, and as you raised your skills, you could do more and more things in the game. Some skills could take months or even a year or more to hit 99, depending on how much you play and how focused you are.

When I first started playing, I jumped from skill to skill, much like a person jumping from chore to chore or dream to dream. But I noticed after a while it felt like I wasn’t getting anywhere. That’s when I decided I needed to focus on one skill if I ever wanted to reach 99 in anything in a reasonable amount of time. So I chose to focus on their Woodcutting skill. I made a plan. I figured out how many logs I needed to cut and how many I could reasonably cut in a day and then counted out the number of days it would take to get to 99.

I started a daily journal on their forums to hold myself accountable to my goal. Each day I refused to do anything else in the game until that goal was done. People in the community were so used to people failing that they would tell me that my goal wasn’t possible; however, slowly but surely, I watched myself succeed, as did the community. Other people became inspired and started to believe that they, too, could hit the infamous 99’s. We even created a group to help inspire each other. We called it, “Achievers United.”

It was during this time that I learned the importance of focusing, making a plan, and giving myself a deadline—making sure that I didn’t let myself get distracted. Without a plan, a big goal can seem daunting because you can’t see the end in front of you. And without a daily log, you also can’t see what you’ve accomplished so far.

At some point, the novelty of working on something wears off and you find yourself in a dark tunnel, where you start losing motivation. You begin to wonder whether you can actually do it or not. Having a daily log lets you go see how far you’ve come from where you used to be, and that helps you start to believe that you can keep moving forward. If you’ve come this far, you can find the strength to keep going.

This is also where a daily goal comes in handy. If all you had to look at was the end goal and how you needed to, for example, cut 150,000 logs, you may get discouraged by the sheer size of the number. And likewise when you write a book, if all you focused on was that you needed 80,000-100,000 words, it might feel like too much. But if you break it down into a daily goal, and just focus on what’s in front of you for that day, it makes it so much easier.

How do you find out how much you should do on any given day? Well, work on your goal for one week. Do as much as you can each day so that you can see what you’re working with. At the end of the week, examine those numbers and pick something that you know you can do reasonably on a daily basis. In terms of writing, I know I can write 1500 words a day, so that’s my daily goal. If I do that, it’s possible to complete a book in 53 days, not counting your days of rest. Your daily goal may be different, it may be higher or it may be lower. Some I know can crank out over 7,000 words a day. For me, I think that would make my head explode.  *haha*

But when you break it down into manageable chunks, your dream becomes a lot easier to envision. My favourite part of having played Runescape was that I learned valuable transferable skills that I put to good use in my life. It’s how I’ve managed to write “THE END” on so many stories. And I’m telling you that you can do it too. You just have to set your mind to it and follow through.

The road may not always be easy and you may fall short at times, but don’t think of it as failure, just think of it as a step towards your goal. You never truly fail unless you give up.


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My Top Ten Pet Peeves

We all have them, don’t we? Things that annoy us, like fingernails scraping down a chalkboard. And everyone has their own list. Below you can find mine, which are shared in no particular order.

1. Noisy chewers

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When people chew with their mouth open or when they chew so quickly that they’re anything but quiet, even with their mouth closed. I want to plug my ears because it drives me crazy.

2. Sirens on the radio.

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I’m not sure who thought of the idea of putting sirens in a song or Advertisement on the radio; but, as someone who suffers from anxiety and who has seen accidents on corners because of people missing an emergency vehicle, I’m very hyper-aware. I’ve actually come to a stop at a green light, thinking there was an emergency vehicle coming, but then I discover that it was just on the radio.

3. Overzealous Honkers

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People who honk at you while driving because you don’t move fast enough for them. I’ve had people honk at me just because I came to a stop at a red light before turning right. A lot of people tend to treat red lights as a yield as opposed to coming to a full-stop before proceeding.

4. Facebook Refreshing

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I’m sure you know this one. You’re in the middle of reading a post and the page refreshes, and the post you were reading disappears into oblivion. Sometimes I can remember the name of the poster, but sometimes I can’t because it’s a group post.

5. Hook-up messages in DM’s from men supposedly in the army

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Am I right? Does this make it into your top ten pet peeves. You’re sitting there scrolling nicely through social media when a new Direct message pops into your inbox, and it says:

“Hello, pretty lady, how are you doing today?”

“Hello, beautiful, how are you doing today?”

Or some variation of the above. Uh, hello, my profile says I’m married. I may be separated, but I’m still married. And they are almost always people supposedly working overseas. Does that make them look more interesting to us?

6. Waking up 30 minutes to an hour before your alarm

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I tend not to fall asleep very fast, so when that happens, I’m usually awake for the rest of the day. It’s the joy of getting older, I have to wake up to go pee more often. *lol* Reminds me of when I was pregnant.

7. Personal space encroachers

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I’m someone who likes my personal space. I’m very easy going and friendly, so I have a hard time enforcing my own personal boundaries…but jeepers, if I take a step back, that does not mean for you to take a step forward. It means that I’m uncomfortable with how close you are.

8. Strong smelly perfume

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I like pretty scents, don’t get me wrong; but, like many others, I have a sensitivity to strong smells, and I’m not the only one. There are some that actually take your breath away, not in a good way, and can trigger an asthma attack.

9. Ignorance over mental health

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It’s really surprising that people can still be ignorant these days, but apparently, it’s still possible. Some still want to believe it’s all made up or just all in your head. They say things like, why do you do that to yourself? Can’t you just be happy, or why don’t you just stop? Things are rarely so simple. Mental illness is complicated and diverse.

10. Dropped calls

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Sometimes you have to wait on hold for a while during a customer support call. Eventually, you get lucky enough to get through to someone, and then the call drops; or, you finally get through the entire automated message, only to have the call drop Now, you have to call back again and go through the same crap again. *Ugh*

What about you? What are your pet peeves? Share them in the comments below. And if you haven’t already, I hope you’ll subscribe to my blog. 🙂


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